Tips to Help Keep Your Man’s Dating Flames Hot
By Advisor. Filed in Dating Advice |
While it’s important to know how to light a man’s fire, it’s also important to understand what douses his dating fires.
In our quest to find, attract, and keep our perfect partner, we often wonder what turns men on. And while it’s important to know how to light a man’s fire, it’s equally important to comprehend what will douse his Dating flames. By being clear about what kind of behavior turns men off, we have the ability to be superior prepared to keep the sparks burning from our first encounter to happily ever after. What follows is a list of the top five male turnoffs.
Turnoff #1: Being Flaky. Guys tell us that one of the biggest turnoffs when Dating a woman is when she either can’t commit to plans or constantly flakes on plans. If you regularly pencil in your plans with a “maybe” and/or cancel plans at the last minute, you’re giving your guy the impression that he’s just tentative in your life, aka “maybe good enough for now.” Who wants to date someone who makes them feel as being temporary? Chances are you don’t, and you shouldn’t be the girl who makes her date feel that way also.
Turnoff #2: Very poor communication skills. Raise your hand if you’ve been this lady in your relationship past: your date/boyfriend said or did something you didn’t like, but instead of saying anything, you went along with it. You may have even said it was “OK.” But, at some point down the road, you got upset. Maybe you even kind of blew up at an inappropriate time, causing an argument that absolutely took your significant other off guard. Most of us have been guilty of passive aggressive behavior at least once in our former dating past. It can happen. But when you repeat that kind of behavior in any Dating relationship scenario, the only thing you’ll succeed at is sabotaging your efforts. Just as you deserve to be with someone who’s very comfortable communicating his wants, needs, and desires, you, too, should be a healthy communicator. Don’t state one thing if you mean another. Instead, get in the habit of saying what you really mean. Guys will appreciate that!
Turnoff #3: Not really playing fair. From your initial encounter to your first date and beyond, guys pay attention to whether or not you’re playing fairly. For example, you always expect the guy to come to your side of town, pick you up, open your door, pay the check, drop you off, call you the next day, and in general placate your every need without you so much as lifting a finger, you’re not dating fairly. More important, if there’s a disagreement and you don’t fight fairly, i.e., you throw things in his face, hold grudges, and insist on winning every argument, you’re going to be a very lonely single girl because you’re not playing fair. In the new millennium, chivalry also goes both ways and the dating game requires plenty of give-and-take. If you can be fair in dating times both good and bad, guys will appreciate you so much more!
Turnoff #4: Trying to always change him. It’s almost clich
