Long Distance Relationships
By Advisor. Filed in Jewish Dating |
For many different reasons, more and more people these days are in some sort of long term relationship. You will no doubt see that this happens most commonly between young couples as they often move out of home to go to college.
There are different debates going around as to the effectiveness of long term relationships. I honestly believe for a number of reasons that they do not work out.
For example, lets look at the idea of a teenage boy living at home. He spent a lot of time with his girlfriend before moving away to college, this is a classic long distance relationship. The theory is that he will still see his girlfriend in the holidays and then once his studies are finished the relationship can resume.
However as you know men are far more likely to get tempted to cheat at college than women are. Obviously during their time at college they shouldn’t be having sex with anyone else but after a few too many drinks at a party temptation can easily overcome loyalty.
It is normally the case that if a man thinks that he can get away with being unfaithful, then he probably will be, and a long term relationship is the perfect setting for this. The only problem with your partner cheating in a long distance relationship is that there’s less chance of finding out about it.
Another reason why long term relationships can be doomed is because people grow apart. While someone’s away they can develop new friendship groups and get used to life without their partner.
If you both know that your relationship is only going to be long distance for a certain amount of time then this is the only way I can see things working out. However if you are going to have to live with the long distance for several years then it probably will not work out for you.
I would therefore consider everything before you get back into a long distance relationship that has already broken up once. If the only reason you want to get back with your ex is because you don’t want to be on your own, think about how often you were alone the last time you were together.
Tags: Dating, family, home, relationships, self help
