The Key to Making Up - Mending Your Broken Heart
By Advisor. Filed in Jewish Dating |
How do you get your ex back? How can you make them realize what you had was so great? This is your key to making up with them and healing your broken heart.
Firstly, you both need to recognize that whatever has happened, the blame must be placed on both of you. If you cheated, they probably weren’t giving you what you needed so you looked elsewhere. They may have cheated on you if they were not getting what they needed from you. Yes, the cheater is morally culpable for the cheating. The pure blame does not with the person who was cheated on. The fault should lie in both party’s laps.
Given that, it is important to forgive and forget. You have to learn to let go of the anger that you have built up about the incident in order to have full forgiveness. The incident must never be mentioned again. You never let it cloud your relationship. You will never be able to truly make up unless you can do this.
If the incident was your fault, apologize and really truly mean it. It is not considerate to your partner if your apology is not meaningful and you end up doing it again. You have to commit to changing if you are going to say “I’m sorry”. Otherwise, you don’t mean it and you won’t get them back.
To get their forgiveness you may have to chase them a bit. In order to make up you need to show them you are interested in making up, but that doesn’t mean stalking them or sending them hundreds of text messages. Don’t expect them to come forgive you right away just because you’ve sent out some signals that you are sorry. Put your ego in check and put your heart on the line.
You may have to settle for something less than you wanted. It may be that they are only ready to be friends when you want a full fledged partner. It may take time to rebuild the trust. If this is the case, you need to give them the space they need to get to know you again. Accept that you have to take what they are offering right now if you want to eventually get them back.
Finally, you need to realize when the strategy of trying to make up isn’t working and you need to give up to heal your broken heart. Sometimes, you just have to move on. If your partner is unable to forgive you, you are in a position where the best thing you can do is move on and enter into new relationships. Even though this will break your heart, sometimes it’s the best thing for you. Making up with them may stop you from meeting your true soul mate, who may be out there waiting for you!
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